Motivation,  Personal Development

Stop Living Life as a Spectator: Be the Player in your Life

When we live our lives as onlookers, most of our time is spent looking at our lives from the outside in. Living life as a spectator inhibits our growth and success.

It is nice to applaud others on their achievements and success in life. However, don’t let what others are doing keep you from living your life. Take an active role and participate in your own life story.

Keeping track of others doesn’t help you move forward in life. It is one of the factors that hold you back. As a result, you lose track of your own goals and dreams.

When you’re constantly the cheerleader, you miss the meaningful things in your own life because you’re always congratulating and applauding others for their great achievements.

It’s good to wish well on others and push them to be the best. However, don’t live in the passenger seat and lose sight of your path to success.

5 things holding you back in life

1. Fear

The fear of change and the unknown can hold you back from tapping into your full potential. Our minds are wired to keep us safe and in a space of the commonly known things to us. As a result, our brains make up stories that ensure we stay where we are.

When we are faced with change, fear kicks in. Fear is a basic human emotion that can either help or hinder us. However, choose to use fear to propel you closer to realizing your dreams. In the midst of fear and uncertainty, do it anyway.

2. Doubt

Doubt is a dangerous place of uncertainty and lack of confidence. Double-mindedness can keep you from utilising your talents and skills to the best of your abilities. Therefore, you need to be courageous in facing life’s challenges and trust yourself.

Fear and doubt can lead you to a state of inertia. Therefore, you need to take an active part in your life. Otherwise, you will remain stuck where you’ve always been.

Change can be uncomfortable. However, it is important for growth and development. Life cannot progress if nothing ever changes. Seasons, times, years and technology are but a few things that prove the vitality of change.

3. Waiting to be ready

Let us be honest with ourselves; there is never a time when we will feel 100% ready to start a project or do something life-changing. There will always be something we can do better, a more suitable time, the excuses will keep coming.

That’s right! They are excuses.

If we waited to be ready before taking a plunge in life, most things would go undiscovered and undone. It’s ok to feel like you’re not ready sometimes.

The important thing is that you actively get up and do something. Excuses will keep you stuck in life; no matter how safe it may seem.

“It’s a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you’re ready.”

~Hugh Laurie

4. Seeking validation

When you believe you can; you will. No one can instil anything in you that you don’t already possess. You must realize that you have immense potential and it is up to you to break forth and unleash it.

Seeking approval from others will keep you boxed in. Living life to please people inhibits your potential and stifles your growth. Therefore, seek to accept yourself wholly as you are and develop your strengths to live out the best life you can.

Learn to trust yourself and listen to your inner voice.

5. When you stop learning

You will never come to a point in time when you know everything and there is no need to continue gaining more knowledge. The world is constantly changing and there are new things to learn every day.

In turn, if you feel that you have learnt and know everything, it’s time to go back to the drawing board. Living life is about continuous learning and improvement.

I’ve learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom – how great is that?

Soledad O’Brien

When you stop learning, you stop growing. Learning is not just consuming knowledge but applying it. We learn from our experiences and our surroundings.

Surround yourself with people you can learn from.


It’s good to be motivated and inspired to make a success of our dreams and goals by other people’s life stories. However, don’t live in the shadows, afraid of living life.

Take life head-on and be in charge. Don’t be afraid to take those risks.

The biggest regret in life is looking back at the time and opportunities wasted away. We are all given the same hours in a day. So, make them count.

Those days will amount to weeks, months and years. Ensure that a year from now you have taken a step further and higher.

Elevate yourself. Live life to learn and grow. Don’t just be a bystander, stand by your dreams. Get pumped up to be the best.

Love, Everyday


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