The building or maintaining of friendships is not easy. Having true friendship is vital for your overall well-being. It’s important to know why you need friends and how to nurture those relationships.
Good friends are good for you. From sharing laughs and cries to having someone to comfort and cheer you on. Life would be dull without a friend or two.
Healthy friendships are great. However, you need to do your part to maintain good friendships. It’s a two-way street.
Human beings are innately social beings. We value connection and togetherness, which is why friendships are an important part of life.
The inner circle
Your inner circle of friends is about 5 close friends you can go to for emotional, social and financial support should things fall apart in your life. These are the friends who would be by your side at a drop of a hat.
It’s important to identify your inner circle because these are the friends who are there through it all. Quality is definitely better than quantity.
Throughout our lives, we will have had countless friends or acquaintances, but it’s the inner circle that have a meaningful impact on your life.
They also play different roles in your life.
Qualities of a good freinship
- Mutual respect
- Non judgemental
A good friendship is about giving and taking. There is a lot to take into consideration when selecting friends. Social skills, approachability, similarities and closeness in addition to the qualities.
Environmental factors such as proximity, activities, life events and influence affect our choice of friends.
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Types of friends in our lives
“A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.”Unknown
The easy going friend
They are chilled and easy to get along with. This friend is always up for anything. You can call them to try something new and go on an adventure. They keep things light and don’t take offence too much.
They are the most understanding of friends and you feel comfortable being yourself around them without judgment.
The brutally honest friend
This friend keeps it 100%. They tell us what we need to hear however painful. There are no sugar coating things. They are honest, even if you don’t want to hear it but do it out of love.
This friend cares more about what’s good for you than you being mad at them for something they said. They are straightforward and no-nonsense types of friends.
These are the friends you call on when you need to hear the truth or need an honest opinion. They keep you in check and are not afraid to tell you things as they are.
This is a friend who inspires you to be the best version of yourself. They motivate you to be great and get out of your comfort zone because they are supportive and always ready for a challenge.
This is the friend who roots and cheers for you. They applaud you, approve and accept you for who you are.
The funny one
We all have that friend who never takes things seriously. They are a laugh and a half. They can turn any situation into a good ol’ laugh. Their humour is appreciated and makes for a great time.
They are very interesting and make great memories.
This type of friend is a soul sister. They meet the deeper innermost needs in the friendship. You are your most authentic around them. You can go to them for advice or help.
They give the best advice and you rely on them for guidance when you need it the most. They are smart and intelligent and very trustworthy.
The guide is a true friend who will stick by you no matter what.
What type of friend are you? Take this Friendship Quiz to find out!
The type of friend we are can also vary with every friendship because you have different friends with different traits.
There 3 types of friendships
- Active friendships are those we keep in constant contact with. We are actively in touch and communicate frequently.
- Dormant friendships are the ones we have a history with. There is no frequent communication but we can pick up the phone even after months and chat or text as if no time has passed.
- Commemorative friendship is one where at one point you were close, but not any more.
Friendships are a lifelong investment that will vary and go through various phases over time. There is a lot of factors for growing apart from friends. Distance, busy schedules and personal and similarities changes.
When a friendship no longer serves you or becomes toxic, it is time to let it go. When you feel drained by a friendship or things start to feel forced then it’s no longer healthy.
Why you Need Friends in your Life
I think we’ve covered a lot about why friendships are important in life. Here are the main key points to take away.
- They are good for your overall wellbeing
- Friends help to boost your self-confidence
- They help ease stress
- To build social and communication skills
- Have someone to support and be there for you
- Share life’s journey
How to nurture friendships
Find time to connect. Any means to stay in touch means a lot in a friendship. Share a caring text or call unexpectedly just to check how they’re doing.
Make yourself available. Even with a busy schedule, it’s important to set time out to be with your friends. There is time, you just need to find it.
Plan a get together or getaway. Nothing is as much fun as a get together with friends. Catching up is the best kind of therapy you didn’t even know you needed.
Show that you can be trusted. Trust is earned over time. Be someone who sticks to their word and show your trustworthiness.
Take up your interests and pursue new hobbies. This is an easy way to reconnect and have fun with friends. Find a shared hobby or activity, whether be it exercising or baking. Go for it!
Resist the urge to be a recluse. Netflix on the couch and ordering your favourite food can be very tempting. But don’t it. Get up, and get out.
Be kind. Kindness goes a long way.
Friends are not only good for social wellbeing but for mental and emotional support as well. they are good for the soul.
Having healthy friendships is good for boosting your confidence, encouragement to be a better person and increasing your sense of self and purpose.
The benefits of having good friends around you are only evident if you are a good friend yourself.
Healthy friendships make life more interesting and worth going through life’s journey with.
To have a friend, be a friend.
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